What to Do When God Uses Those Closest to You to Change You
Have you ever had a situation where someone close to you will say or do something that leaves you looking at them like, did you really just say/do that??
Have your most intense discussions or "heated fellowships" been with those who are close to you?
How did you handle it?
All of us are in charge of our reactions but sadly, some of us don't even know it! We grant power to the people who offend us, upset us and disrespect us, not even realizing that we do. We act out of character, walk around upset when all of the while, they've gone on with their lives. One of the things I personally had to get was I can still remain at peace even when I feel a certain way. I can dislike what family and/or friends say or do to me and STILL be happy and joy filled, not letting their remarks or behavior ruin my day! It by far is not an easy thing to do, since some of us are reactionary but that's where the fruit of self-control comes in.
There comes a time when we just have to smile our way through things, and decide that we won't let anything or anyone (yes, even those closest to us) steal our joy. We will be tested. We will be tried. But we also have a choice as to how we respond to it.
Are you the type of person who explodes at the drop of a dime? Do you let those closest to you upset you know that they do EVERY TIME they do? If yes, then the fruit of self-control needs to be developed in you. Now you may say "but you don't understand, they were very rude to me" or "they disrespect me constantly". Trust me, I know the feeling! But we have to strive to get to a place where we let God deal with them while we remain calm. We have to choose to remain godly and respectable even when we don't feel or believe we're receiving fair treatment. God said "vengeance is mine" (Romans 12:19) so we have to let Him be our Vindicator, let Him fight our battles. What do you think is much more effective: loosing our cool when things irritate us or remaining calm and letting God diffuse the situation?
Those closest to us can REALLY take us there sometimes! Lol! If we let them! But we have to make a conscious decision to stay in control and remain at peace. If we have to pray, by all means pray. If we have to breath, by all means breath. Taking a quick second to respond to a situation instead of reacting to it will allow us to remain calm and in control. Besides if we argue with a fool and someone's looking, they won't be able to tell which one is the fool!
What change is God trying to bring about in you??