Training Our Children in the Way They Should Go
Good Morning Lovies!
God has been opening my eyes to the serious responsibility of raising children. I am so grateful and blessed to have four beautiful children whom I love. God did not have to bless me with children but since He chose to, I do my best to be the best mother I can be to them. I’m in no way the perfect parent however I have a burning desire to raise my children the way I believe God wants me to. As I was dropping my kids off at school one day, I glanced around the room filled with kids. I thought to myself, God willing, all of these children are gonna grow up to be adults one day and it is our job as parents to raise them to become responsible adults. You know how you already know something but it hits you in a new way?? That’s how I felt.
My children will not always be children. If God allows, they’re gonna be adults one day! What does that mean? Whatever they’re taught as children will be embedded in them as they become adults. Think about it. Some, if not most of, the habits we currently have as adults were formed when we were children. From how we handle conflict to even how we brush our teeth, those habits were taught to us by our parents. As Christian parents, we have an even greater responsibility. Not only are we charged to raise our babies to become respectable members of society but we have to “bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.” (Ephesians 6:4) We have to teach our children about God, His Son Jesus Christ, Godly morals & values. We are responsible for teaching our children how to live God’s way and not the world’s way. Proverbs 22:6 says “Train a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”
So parents, we have a lot of work to do! It’s good that we know scriptures, go to church and bible study but what are we taking the time to really teach our children? Are we teaching them to treat others the way they would want to be treated? Are we teaching them to be honest? Are we teaching them to call on the name of Jesus for any and everything? Whether we are cognitive of this very fact or not, we are raising future Kingdom workers! That’s a BIG responsibility! Now, I don’t say this to scare or pressure anyone, just to put you on notice. John 10:10 says “the thief comes to steal, to kill and destroy…” If the enemy can’t get to us, guess who he’ll come after? Those closest to us! So it’s time to start equipping our children, no matter what age they are. How can we start?? With these simple steps:
- Read the bible to them. Purchase a bible that’s appropriate for their age. Make it a routine to read to them at bedtime. That way, they’re learning about God and spending quality time with you all at the same time!
- Pray with them. After bible reading, say your prayers together. Teach them that prayer is simply a conversation with God. Pray first to show them an example of how to pray and let them follow your lead. Allow everyone to get a turn praying and reassure them that there is no right or wrong way to pray. Encourage them to share EVERYTHING with God, how they feel, what bothers them, etc.
- Model Christ-like behavior. Yes parents, it all starts with us! We have to be intentional with showing them how to live God’s way. That means being nice to everyone, always telling the truth, and turning the other cheek when someone says or does something we don’t like. Is it easy? No! Is it worth it? YES! We have to be the people we are teaching our children to be. We’re leading by example. And please don’t beat yourself up when you make mistakes and do something that’s contrary to what you’re teaching your children. Use that as an opportunity to teach them about God’s forgiveness, how He’s ready to forgive us whenever we do something we’re not suppose to. All we have to do is say I’m sorry :)
Now, I’m not saying be perfect because NONE of us are. But if the children see us acting one way in church and another way at home, something is wrong. It is my goal for everyone, including myself, to be more consistent and diligent in raising our children according to God’s morals and values. From this day forward, let’s take a stand and do our very best to invest in our children. With love, quality and quantity time, let’s show our children how to be more like Jesus! “Tell ye your children of it, and let your children tell their children, and their children another generation.” (Joel 1:3)