Hello hello Lovebugs :)
No matter what people say to us or do to us, we are responsible for our own actions. We are responsible for the words that come out of our mouths. It's easy to put the blame on someone else but the fact of the matter is, it's our responsibility to remain in control. It's natural for us to jump into defense mode when we have been wronged or mistreated but God is calling for us to do the very opposite of what our feelings are telling us to do: Be still.
Oh how challenging it can be to remain in a state of calm when all you wanna do is yell, scream and even fight. But Romans 12:17 says "repay no one evil for evil..." So that means no matter what "evil" is done to us, we are not suppose to pay it back!
One of the great things about making the decision to remain calm and still while in the midst of affliction is that God will take care of EVERYTHING! See, we're so use to taking care of things ourselves that we don't allow God the room to do what He needs to do. Romans 12:19 says "... Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith The Lord." Woo! Now when God steps in and takes care of something, He really takes care of it!
So Lovies, when the going gets tough, always remember that you have a choice to be still. It's not easy but it's worth it! God will take care of each and everything concerning us. And all we have to do is let Him :)