Change Your Response, Change the Outcome
Happy New Week Lovies!
The one thing I love about a new week, a new day even, is the newness it brings with it. I’m a firm believer that each day brings with it a fresh start and another chance to get it right! It’s something about starting over that’s just great. We get to leave all of the problems, mistakes and issues behind us. Not that we won’t encounter new ones but we can apply the wisdom we’ve obtained to keep past issues from repeating. Now there are some of us who may take longer than others to learn a particular lesson. It’s as if we keep going around the same mountain over and over again. We’ve tried EVERYTHING but for some reason, we just keep getting stuck. So, what do we do? Well, one thing we can do is to change our response.
I had the pleasure of attending a women’s expo this past weekend and it was wonderful to see women of all shapes, sizes, shades and backgrounds come together for something positive. In one of the workshops I attended, the presenter, Ms. Colleen Humphries, said that “in order to change an outcome, we must first change our responses.” Now I’ve been told time and time again that there’s a difference between reacting to something and responding to it. We can have certain things happen to us HOWEVER we can determine the outcome based on how we respond it! For example, someone says or does something that is upsetting to us. We can choose to either a) respond to them in anger or b) stay calm and respond. I choose B! Now, doing this requires a heavy heap of self-control and discipline because there are some folks we’ve come across that we’ve felt deserved to be told a thing or two! But since we are aspiring to be the “bigger person” and pursue peace, we can choose to remain level headed and unmovable, therefore taking control of the situation. Proverbs 15:1 says “A gentle answer turns away wrath but harsh words stir up anger” so by choosing to respond in a calm manner, we can keep a heated situation from turning ugly.
I know that changing our responses so that we change certain outcomes requires practice, patience and discipline. We can’t beat ourselves up when we make a mistake. Instead we have to take the lessons, get back up and keep having at it so that we can finally stop going around and around the mountain and move forward!