What's Love Got to Do With It??
It’s so funny whenever we think or talk about love. I believe it’s safe to say all of us have tasted the sweetness of love a time or two in our lives. But at the end of the day, what is love? In 1 Corinthians 13, the bible gives us the definition. Love is patient, it’s kind, it does not boast, etc. Now I understand this but I still needed help with something. Reading this made me think about the times I was in love (or those times I thought I was :-/). I can admit that when I believed I was in love with someone, it was because of a feeling that I had. Is it right or is it wrong to associate love with feelings? Then I had a revelation. We all know that love is an action word which means it’s something we do and not just something we say. Some of us tell the people we love that we love them because of the way they make us feel. You know, the whole butterflies in your stomach thing or when you can’t keep them off your mind. That does mean we love them right? But what happens when the feelings subside? Do we still love them? If not, was it even love in the first place? Then I started (over)thinking and wondering if the love I felt was indeed love or if it was just mere infatuation. After speaking to God and my love about it (he really is my love J), I realized that my definition of love was founded on a wordly perspective. Now, I love me some Jesus and our relationship, so because of this, I started looking for Jesus in a man, meaning I sought perfection. Of course, that didn’t work! I mean I was bad y’all. Anytime a guy would do something I didn’t like or hurt my feelings, he was out of there! (Now, in my defense, there were some that deserved to get the boot!) Then I started thinking. When I fell back in love with a perfect God, I had to learn to love an imperfect man the way God wanted me to. Now how in the world do we do that?? After talking to God about it some more, He helped me to see that He alone is perfect and there is NO man (or woman) on this Earth who is. Now, I understood this but unconsciously, I was still looking for perfection. I had a new perspective on love but my old ways left behind a residue in me. He then showed me that I am suppose to love people past their imperfections. Has this been an easy task? HECK NO! Is He helping me through it? Absolutely! I love God and do my best to live the way He wants me to live and in this case, love the way He wants me to love. I believe that I’ve made A LOT of progress with this and I have no one but God to thank. He truly does work with us and all we have to do is be open and willing to do things the way He wants them to be done: RIGHT!